Philophobia
As per wikipedia -
Philophobia is defined as the abnormal, persistent and unwarranted fear of falling in love. This affects the quality of life and pushes a person away from commitment. It is most common in females compared to males since they are told not to pursue love and that people who pursue them will always be bad, no matter what, but instead are set up for arranged marriage and/or forced marriage by the family and/or community who says that the partner and spouse of one's choice isn't good enough for them and that they should marry who they choose for them since they are typically pressured to have good relationships and marriages. It also triggers various symptoms that may incorporate sweating, irregular heartbeat, shortness of breath, feelings of dread, nausea and feeling of restlessness. The worst aspect of fear of being in love and falling in love is that it keeps a person in solitude. It can also evolve out of religious and cultural beliefs that prohibit love.
If not extremely affected by the disease and displaying its severe syndromes, but yes I am philophobic and over-judgmental of people whom I want in my life. Why can't people (Read: Relatives, family and friends precisely) understand that every person has an unique and different perspective towards emotions such as love. The childhood, the past relationships and parental relationships as well affect a person the way he/she sees his prospective partner and also since a very small age we have subconsciously bullet-ed points of preferences. Hence when I think of marrying someone, I don't fear commitment or responsibilities as much as I get anxious about the person. If the person would not be same as I thought or perceived, if he would fall under the category of people whose presence I have never entertained in my life and chose to stay away of their shadows even, then what I would do? How can someone judge a person from several meets? How can small conversations be the pathway to a successful marriage? At the age of 25, I am still not able to get used to the fact that marriage is eventual and for me its around the corner. For me falling in love can not ever be a gradual. I can't fall in love with someone eventually after sharing the same room, same bed, same wardrobe or same washroom. That's called staying together not living together. May be I am wired differently in my head or something that welcoming a stranger in my life sound scary more than crazy for me. I am not against arranged marriage or a full-fledged supporter of love marriage. Either way, its about the person you are going to live with and I am apprehensive of the fact that if I will ever be able to love someone with flaws that I can not accept!
Compromising can never be a life long process. If yes, then either you are too accepting of fate or you are too submissive to raise a voice. I am part of neither of the groups. I can not ever live a pretentious life. So, yes I wish to live a life where unwanted tensions are not welcomed. I want peace. I need love. And I pray to be with someone who loves what I love and hates what I hate. As cliche as it may sound, but yes, I am looking for a soul-mate.
God bless me with my crazy wish.
Universe, are you listening to me?
Philophobia is defined as the abnormal, persistent and unwarranted fear of falling in love. This affects the quality of life and pushes a person away from commitment. It is most common in females compared to males since they are told not to pursue love and that people who pursue them will always be bad, no matter what, but instead are set up for arranged marriage and/or forced marriage by the family and/or community who says that the partner and spouse of one's choice isn't good enough for them and that they should marry who they choose for them since they are typically pressured to have good relationships and marriages. It also triggers various symptoms that may incorporate sweating, irregular heartbeat, shortness of breath, feelings of dread, nausea and feeling of restlessness. The worst aspect of fear of being in love and falling in love is that it keeps a person in solitude. It can also evolve out of religious and cultural beliefs that prohibit love.
If not extremely affected by the disease and displaying its severe syndromes, but yes I am philophobic and over-judgmental of people whom I want in my life. Why can't people (Read: Relatives, family and friends precisely) understand that every person has an unique and different perspective towards emotions such as love. The childhood, the past relationships and parental relationships as well affect a person the way he/she sees his prospective partner and also since a very small age we have subconsciously bullet-ed points of preferences. Hence when I think of marrying someone, I don't fear commitment or responsibilities as much as I get anxious about the person. If the person would not be same as I thought or perceived, if he would fall under the category of people whose presence I have never entertained in my life and chose to stay away of their shadows even, then what I would do? How can someone judge a person from several meets? How can small conversations be the pathway to a successful marriage? At the age of 25, I am still not able to get used to the fact that marriage is eventual and for me its around the corner. For me falling in love can not ever be a gradual. I can't fall in love with someone eventually after sharing the same room, same bed, same wardrobe or same washroom. That's called staying together not living together. May be I am wired differently in my head or something that welcoming a stranger in my life sound scary more than crazy for me. I am not against arranged marriage or a full-fledged supporter of love marriage. Either way, its about the person you are going to live with and I am apprehensive of the fact that if I will ever be able to love someone with flaws that I can not accept!
Compromising can never be a life long process. If yes, then either you are too accepting of fate or you are too submissive to raise a voice. I am part of neither of the groups. I can not ever live a pretentious life. So, yes I wish to live a life where unwanted tensions are not welcomed. I want peace. I need love. And I pray to be with someone who loves what I love and hates what I hate. As cliche as it may sound, but yes, I am looking for a soul-mate.
God bless me with my crazy wish.
Universe, are you listening to me?
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