Being a Woman

Being a woman...

Certainly being a woman is not easy at all. I am not saying this because I am a woman myself, but when I see through the horizon of life, woman stood to be the one bearing duties and responsibilities till the last moment of her life. In this male chauvinistic society, women are stepped over every possible way !For the beginning, when they touch the earth, the very next moment faces fall seeing them just because they are girls. Some of them are not even fortunate enough to see life outside their mother's womb. They are murdered mercilessly inside the mother because they are female fetus, because they are just burdens to bear. At that point what kind of trauma a mother should be undergoing ? After all she is a woman too.When a girl is born, most often the rituals after the birth are not celebrated in a grand way. In some families the concept of women birthdays are non existent. Women are not that important you see. They are meant to be provided with old stuff of their elder siblings, they are forced to take part in household chores, they are pushed to be responsible, to be understanding from the age when boys just know how to play around with their new cricket bats and tricycles.Now a days men are such sick minded that they are not even stepping back from molesting and harassing young girls. Starting from cousins in family, to neighbors, school and tuition teachers, to strangers a naive girl falls prey to the carnal hunger of those beasts. And all the family knows to beat them and shut their mouth as it will bring a bad name to the family and girl, lest what kind of trauma she bears, what kind of pain she goes through without the support of family at that point.A brothers feels awkward to pillion her sister around as the society would name them differently and throw nasty looks. The girl always has to be a giver for life. She would be half feed as her brothers needs to taken care of in a better way as he would be the one who will look after parents in their old age and the girl is just a medium of financial expenditure in terms of her marriage, dowry and the aftermaths of the in-laws affairs.She remains as a bondage and debt to the parents. Since her birth they only think of saving for her marriage. She is forced to forget the one she ever loved for the sake of her family's reputation, for her parent's ailing health or just because nobody in her family likes him. She has to marry someone who she never intended to know. If the guy is earning good and from a good family, then no need look ahead as if these two conditions are only meant to be met in an alliance.She has to be doing all the works in her in laws place as if she is a permanent maid they got without having to pay ever. At an alien place, when someone needed love and care to adjust, women are loathed with duties, responsibilities and what not. They are prompted to produced babies as if they do it since birth, as if its a child's play. Nobody understands the mental state to be thrust into some additional responsibilities for a life time.They surrender. They go through a change of a life time to meet the demands of their in-laws. After babies the husband loses interest and moves out for better options in most cases if not all. She often bears the abuses and pummels of her in-laws but she has to patient and tolerate every nonsense as its said that women are epitome of forbearance.Children grow up and need a mother all the time. Let her be working or a house wife its her duty to look after them, their studies, their health and every little thing related to them. She would seamlessly keep working till her last breath without mouthing a complaint against anyone. Be it husbands leaving them for other women, In-laws try to harm, hurt or even killing them, Children abandoning them at their old age or want them to baby sit their child when they would be out partying. Many more of such instances occur about which we read or see, still women are always smiling behind the tears, laughing behind the fears and held responsible for everything.This is how life is ....Salute all the women whose sacrifices help our life nourish a bit more .....I never wish to be like one of them...Its such a monotonous life when one has to only give !!!