Myths of Modern Relationships

Myths of Modern Relationships !!!!!

1. Relationships are selfless. - If one goes by the normal relationships statuses that exist around plentifully, then one can be sure that an emotional, financial and sexual barter still very much exist which we cleverly name to be relationships. 
2. Relationships are for forever. - Do I even need to detail it ? Like how much relationships even survive after school/college as the distance grows ? The people in a relationship only crave for physical proximity and financial assistance. If that's love then what you call a newly wedded wife who waits for his husband patiently as he serves his country for years?
3. Relationships means no infidelity. - Hardly any chance that your partner is not cheating on you. If he is too aloof, too silent or too loving, then its alarming !
4. Relationship means equality. - Who is that man who can tolerates his better half to be in a better work position, more earning or highly qualified than him. The answer is none !
5. Relationship means mutual respect. - Not in initial years though, but with course of time in any fight the men don't forget to drag the girl's family into the fight addressing with fowl words and make it uglier !
6. Relationship means forgiveness. - If a man sleeps around with other women and gets caught, he pleads and mostly the wife forgives if does not forget. But if a woman even gets friendly with another man, her husband does not miss to call her a slut at times !
7. Relationship means respecting the differences. - That hardly happens as in the new home, hew set up the girl has to give up her surname, life style forget individuality.
8. Relationship means mutual decisions. - When from a girl's saree, jeweleries to pregnancy is planned by her in laws, whats there is to take decisions upon. Its not that women don't decide things, they do -  like what to cook for today's lunch and when to go out to bring the kids home!
9. Relationships means monogamous orientation. - Men feel bored after few months and looks out for better options to get their hands on and zips down. And if the wife turns fat, wrinkled with grey hairs, God help their urge !
10. Relationships are on consent of partner. -  If so, then why 70% of women are legally raped by their husbands on the forth night itself?

There is much more to this delicate issue but unfortunately I am unable to cover them all.

Its not that I am against relationships. I am very much social and instilled with faith towards beauty of human relationships. As I am a woman, I have highlighted few segments where a woman suffers in relationships. I am sure, men would be having some issues too. My sole reason of writing this is for women to learn to say no to people they don't like to be in a relationship with, be it before marriage or post that. We need to respect ourselves and chose a good person to live with. After all its always told us to be with one who infuses more smiles in life than responsibilities. We should be with that person who is worth all the sacrifices we do !

- Elora